Domestic Violence: How to Help a Woman in Need by Judge Richard Halloran

Every year in the United States, more than three million women are victims of domestic abuse. It can be difficult to approach a friend who you suspect is being physically or emotionally abused by her husband or partner, but it is an important step to take if you want to help this person. Whether a woman is a relative, a close friend, or just someone you casually know, you can find a way to approach her to offer help if you see the warning signs of domestic violence.

First, research local women’s shelters, social services, and counseling services in your area to find out about the level of assistance that is available. Talk and listen to your friend and encourage her to talk about her feelings. Give her the information she needs about where she can go for support and legal assistance. If she has been physically assaulted, go with her to be examined by a doctor and encourage her to contact the police to report the assault.

Above all, help your friend make a safe decision about whether to immediately leave her abusive husband or partner. If you suspect that leaving may put her in further jeopardy, do not encourage that. Instead, encourage her to talk to a counselor and a legal professional.

About the Author: Judge Richard B. Halloran actively supported the establishment of the 1994 laws for Personal Protection Orders (PPO) in Michigan. Between 1993 and 2000, Judge Halloran served as co-chair of the Wayne County Coordinating Council to Prevent Domestic Violence.